Need Phase Prepared Before Pregnancy

Having children is the hope of almost all married couples. Unfortunately, not a few couples who reluctantly considering everything when planning to become pregnant. Consequently, when the pregnancy comes most couples are not ready then lead to things that are not desired.
"Pregnancy is an episode of physical and psychological changes in the complex for a woman who never experienced it. Therefore, we should adapt to the lifestyle adjustments that occur with pregnancy process," said psychologist Rose Mini, which is familiarly called Mbak Romi, as she spoke in a seminar titled "Lactamil With You in You Motherhood Journey which took place in Jakarta, late last week.
Mini Rose said, a lot of work to be done on the mother during pregnancy. The task was, among others, accept the pregnancy, maintains relationships with a fetus, adjust the physical changes, incorporate changes to sexual intercourse and childbirth preparation and parenting. "Do not underestimate the little that these tasks are pretty," he said.
However, Romi said, it is also important is the knowledge partner to the psychological condition of expectant mothers when they entered the post-age pregnancy and childbirth. Psychological condition was divided into four stages, including stages of the first trimester, the stage of the second trimester, third trimester and post-stage labor. According to him, knowledge of the four psychological stages had a strong capital for planning a pregnancy.
Romi explains the stages of the first trimester, an expectant mother usually experienced anxiety where happiness mingled with doubt. Because it happened so emotional fluctuations of this period possessed a high risk for the occurrence of an argument or discomfort.
In addition, the stage was also marked by the presence of morning sickness and hormonal changes. "Related to the symptoms of this stage, it is worth consulting an expert partner," he said.
The next stage, Mini Rose continued to explain, the prospective mother's psychological condition began to improve. According to him, at this stage of the second trimester, the psychological condition of the prospective mother calmed down and started to adapt. Even so, the attention of prospective mothers begin to shift in attention to changes in body shape, sexual needs, the relationship between the family and the baby.
"Not a candidate for the father who did not understand about the need seksusal so important to consult with their doctor," he said.
He added that at this stage also, the prospective mother began to see and to emulate the role of mother. In addition, the increasing dependence on the couple. Why, she asks the prospective fathers to be senantisa know and understand the psychological condition of his wife.
Understand
In the last stage of pregnancy, third trimester, Romi reminded that the couple is far more understanding of the prospective mother. Because, at this stage, the stress increases again. That's because the growing conditions of pregnancy. "Conditions were not infrequently led to problems such as sleep position is less comfortable and fatigue easily attacked," he said.
Besides, says Romi, emotionally volatile mother also came back because of the risk associated with the image of pregnancy and childbirth. "Some mothers may think about my child as anything, and others," he said.
Last special stage, he saw the condition of the house plays an important role in dealing with the psychological condition of the prospective mother post-delivery. At these stages the condition of women experience temporary emotional reaction and can be experienced mothers who gave birth in the first week.
"When a baby is born, new mothers back to adapt. Fortunately, in our culture does not allow the mother to be left alone. Many families are waiting, so just helping the mother to face the psychological condition. While in western countries, most mothers left alone so vulnerable baby syndrome blues, "he said.
Still, Rose saw each stage can be handled in a way that fairly easily. First, multiply-abundance of information from the environment and family. The second method, discuss with your spouse and family.
"The most effective way is perbanyaklah information and discussions involving the couple. That way, there are similarities that lead to action on the resolution of the problem," he asserted.